As someone who knows exactly what it feels like to be under appreciated at work, I bounced from job to job and didn't know why until I realized it was the feeling of being under appreciated.
There was a time where my family's household income solely relied on the job that I had. As I was in search for something new, I knew I couldn't quit the current job, even though I no longer enjoyed it. I had to quickly come up with ways to handle the job before I drove myself nuts.
Let me ask you a few questions:
Do you have days when you want to call of work just to avoid your boss?
Are you tired of the people you work with who seem to be gossiping and complaining all the time?
Do you feel trapped and that you're worth more?
Here are 3 ways that can help you handle and improve your work situation.
1) Be Grateful
Being grateful in general is a must if you’re looking to be happy. Giving thanks allows us to be in the moment and truly take in life experiences as they come; either good or bad. Creating a habit of thanking others or appreciating nature can help create a healthy mindset for when you’re at work.
The more time you take in feeling the feeling of being thankful, the easier this habit will become. You might start helping others without expecting something in return, and there’s a special feeling to be felt there.
Something you can do to be grateful is recite positive affirmations.
Positive affirmations you can use are:
"I am grateful for each moment for it is new and exciting."
"I am able to express my abilities at my job and I am grateful for this employment."
"I am worthy to be the best I can be."
Even if you might not believe these words now, that's okay. Affirmations can attract these realities for you.
2) Set Boundaries
Being grateful also can be a barrier that surrounds us from all the negativity out there.
It’s painful finding yourself in the middle of a group who starts to talk poorly about someone else. It can be extremely awkward when they ask your opinion about this person, especially if they are your friend.
Gossip and trash-talking is a quick way of killing gratefulness. It’s important to set strict boundaries with the people around you. There is no shame in letting them know you say no to gossip.
One way you can set a boundary is by kindly removing yourself from a conversation and you can also verbalize that if the conversation continues in this manner, then I am going to remove myself.
3) Set a Game Plan
Let’s face it. At the end of the day, this job might not be for you. And that’s okay! You should never settle. Honestly assess if this is your dream job and if not, look for a different position that provides more for you.
Or this job might be exactly where you want to be and you can be the change that you want to see!
As we discussed above, if you want your workplace to have less gossiping, you can ask them three qualities that they like about that person.
Positivity is contagious. Leading the conversation towards a more positive approach can help spread more positivity and create an environment that you'll love.